Feeling confident can change a lot in a person’s life. Without being hesitant and scared when doing the things that matter, that is key to success. However, what do you do when confidence does not naturally come to you when you need to?
Have you ever gone to a job interview, and you were extremely nervous? You might have sounded confident in your head, but you weren’t aware that you were already stuttering.
The lack of confidence roots in many different reasons, tracing back to childhood and upbringing. Everything that hasn’t gone right with a person is often always because of their childhood and genes. There are times when people get intimidated by what is in front of them. Other times, people simply know that they cannot do it. Whatever the reason is, people can always do something about it.
If you know that you have still some work to do to gain or regain your confidence, here are some of the things that you can try
Don’t Beat Yourself Too Hard
When you are already down in the dumps, beating yourself about your problems will not help. Sure, you have put on some weight, but who did not? The COVID-19 pandemic made everyone a little bit more comfortable at home than your bed did for the past years. Hating yourself and the way you look will not help at all, even when you are trying to work out of spite. That is not healthy, and you know it. Treat yourself with kindness, and everything will follow.
Focus on What You Can Do
Usually, people correlate confidence with physical appearance and attributes. After all, the saying “Look good, feel good” exists for a reason. This is why formal business clothes can make someone feel like they can conquer their pitch and how sleeping clothes automatically make anyone feel at home. There is some psychology at play right there. So when you do not feel confident about how you look, it is only proper and reasonable for you to improve it.
Following the context above, why wear cropped top shirts when you know you have put on some weight? Just because you do not look good in a cropped top does not mean you won’t look good in anything else. See? You have to focus on what you have and what you can do.
Talk to Experts
This item is directly related to the previous one, as talking to experts and medical professionals is something you can do to gain your confidence. Nowadays, society is starting to normalize medical procedures to improve physical appearance. Countless treatments help anyone suffering from conditions that impact their self-esteem and confidence, treatments that counter aging, and even procedures give patients features that they lack or do not have.
It is not just about seeing your dermatologist for a facelift. You can count anything that you can do to improve things about yourself as helping you lift your self-esteem. For instance, you’re not all too confident of your pearly whites. You can do something about that. You can brush your teeth regularly with specialty teeth-whitening toothpaste or visit your trusted orthodontist to get braces fitted for your teeth. These are not just about your oral health, but it is also about how you will be able to smile in confidence afterward.
Surround Yourself with Positive People
You’ve learned that most people’s issues are all rooted in childhood traumas and unhealthy upbringing and that having positivity around you will surely make the bad things disappear. You won’t even have to go to therapy (but, of course, it is advisable).
Having family and friends that love and support you is important for anyone to feel confident. When someone feels loved and accepted, it is easier to flourish and improve.
Now, this part addresses the lack of confidence in the workplace or even in school. People can also feel not too confident about themselves because of what they know they cannot do. It is human nature to have inhibitions, and it is normal to feel so when unsure. It is the human tendency to save themselves from failure or rejection. Still, this will not have to be the case when you continue learning and gaining knowledge. When you know you’ve got the skills and talent to do something, you feel confident to take on any job opportunity that presents itself to you.
Confidence is not just beauty; it is everything. So, you must do everything you can to be in any aspect of your life, and you will be good to go.